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Post by johnny on Dec 15, 2023 16:46:08 GMT
Two weeks ago today, Friday 1st December, my Mum died, unexpectantly. Her health had deteriorated the last few months but it was still a shock.
I have gone through a range of emotions and now just settled on sadness and realisation I will never see her again. I had been used to her hospital stays, only this time she is not coming home.
I have a brother and sister, nephews and a niece. I was the youngest of our siblings. The one who stayed home the longest and the one who lived the nearest - a mile away. Google tells me I visited my parents for 28 days out of 30 in November.
I have been looking after my dad these past two weeks. His pysical health is fine but mentally he is so forgetful. Mum was the opposite. Failing physical health health but razor sharp mind - and tongue. On my trips to the gym" What do you want muscles for and who's going to be looking at you". Ouch Mummy. That's where I get it from 😀
She spent her life caring about others, family and in the work she did. She will be missed.
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Post by foreverfan on Dec 15, 2023 16:58:34 GMT
So sorry to hear Johnny, I hope your as ok as you can be...... Words are never enough.
It's been a year of hell for myself as well, my mum passed in March, my partners parents ( I was close to) went in June and August , and just this month an Uncle, so totally get what your going through, and grief is different for everyone, and we go through it our way..
Easy to say, look after yourself.
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Post by Alan on Dec 15, 2023 16:59:52 GMT
Oh, johnny, I’m so sorry to hear that. Guessing that if it wasn’t expected then it wasn’t believed to be a terminal illness she had (well not the big “C” anyway?) Bereavements are so hard to deal with at any age. I lost my parents in the first half of the 1990s, four years apart from each other, and my older brother three years ago (actually I’d say it’s worse when you’re older). I had wondered if you were just taking a break from the forum. Welcome back anyway. I hope you’re OK.
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Post by HOMETIME on Dec 15, 2023 19:11:25 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss, Johnny. It's the hardest blow. Even if you had been prepared for it by a long illness, it still hits hard and deep. It sounds like you had a good relationship, so the pain will no doubt be deep and long (that's how it was for me, anyway: 20 years on, I still wonder what she'd have thought about this or that, or how much she'd have loved my son).
With all of the responsibilities on your plate, it's important to remember to be kind to yourself too.
Wishing you strength.
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Post by richard on Dec 15, 2023 19:42:50 GMT
Condolences, Johnny. My mum died near to Christmas years ago, so I have some idea of your grief. I noticed you hadn't posted, and now understand the sad reason why. Wishing you come through this heartache in time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 15, 2023 21:54:19 GMT
Very, very sorry to hear of your bereavement. My thoughts are with you at this extremely difficult time.
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Post by jj on Dec 16, 2023 2:36:07 GMT
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Johnny. It may be of little help for you to know this, but I and many others here know exactly what you're feeling, because we've lost loved ones too. I hope you find some comfort from those closest to you.
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Post by johnny on Dec 17, 2023 9:53:29 GMT
Thanks for the comments people and sharing of your own experiences. It looks like we have all experienced this horrible (but inevitable) situation at some point.
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Post by voyage2 on Dec 18, 2023 19:25:05 GMT
Sorry for your loss Johnny. Thinking of you at this difficult time.
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